have I mentioned lately how much I fuckin love you?
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Day 25 of #backbendmadness2014 w/ @kinoyoga @fitqueenirene @beachyogagirl - #hanumanasana
I’ve been feeling extremely thankful for my body recently. I spent such a huge chunk of my life picking at myself for all of my perceived flaws- gobble neck, thunder thighs, miles of stretch marks, chubby belly, etc. I mean, there’s got to be a ‘fuck it’ point. Essentially, I had to realize- what if I spend my whole life trying to lose weight and I still have all of my ‘flaws’? Y’all, I have no fucking intention of wasting away my 20s in pursuit of half baked ideas about what my body ‘should’ look like- why bother when this is what it DOES look like?
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And I always want to point out here: women, on average, possess more lower-body strength, while men, on average, possess more upper-body strength. There’s a lot of overlap and it isn’t always individually applicable, but that’s the generalization, averaging across the population.
But we SOCIALLY value upper-body strength, and upper-body muscles. So we construct women as weaker, because we refuse to measure them on the body parts where they may be stronger, we devalue those.
Lifting is mostly done with the legs. So women may be as good or better at heavy lifting as men. But we socially construct lifting as having to do with large, muscular arms and chests. You don’t really need powerful arms and chests to lift—you need powerful thighs, otherwise you’re gonna throw your back out. We actually lie about what makes a person strong and capable to favor men.
Push-up and pull-ups are upper-body strength exercises. So they’re socially valued. The military doesn’t tell you to do 20 squats as penance. No one is fucking impressed by all the squats you can do. Squats just sound stupid, hah, squats. We laugh at them because women might be better at them than men, on average. They’re worthless.
This stuff plays into all sorts of other body image problems, too. The body weight that’s regarded as ideal for women, for example, is really only achievable for individuals suffering from mild to moderate muscular atrophy. You literally can’t get there just by shedding fat - you also have to let your muscles waste away. We actually regard it as “normal” for a woman to be suffering from muscular atrophy.
I am always amazed that cis people can talk about this problem without once mentioning transmisogyny.
The most significant part of my transition, and the one that improved my ability to be read as cis the most, was losing two stone in muscle mass. I had to quit my job as a martial arts instructor and rein back my training hugely and it’s making me miserable, but cis people seem utterly incapable of not treating me like shit for having muscles.
And let’s be honest when have you ever heard a cis woman not follow up the phrase ‘I don’t want to put on too much muscle’ with ‘I don’t want to look manly/like a tr***y’?
I don’t know why I upload pictures in twos. Also black and white makes me feel artsy when I’m clearly not 😊
You are not some kind of a saint because you “still think women are beautiful” without makeup on. You do not get brownie points for not being disgusted by women in their natural state. Some women wear a little makeup, some women wear a lot, some women wear none at all and men’s opinions about it are less than worthless. Because we don’t fucking wear it for you.
I remember when I first posted this a couple years ago I got so many messages saying “You’re pretty but you should really cover up your stomach”
Still pisses me off.